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Funeral services will take place on Saturday, February 9, 2019 at 10:00 AM (Mountain).

Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church
Kadoka, South Dakota

Kadoka Cemetery
Kadoka, South Dakota
5-7 p.m. Friday, February 8, 2019,
with a prayer service at 7:00 p.m.
Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church
Kadoka, South Dakota

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In memory of

Elizabeth "Betty" VanderMay

of Kadoka, South Dakota, died on Sunday, February 3, 2019 at the Kadoka Nursing Home at the age of 88

Elizabeth Jane “Betty” Nemec was born April 6, 1930, the oldest of 18 children born to Edward and Elizabeth (Puryear) Nemec. Betty grew up on a farm-ranch near Midland, South Dakota, and received her education at Phoeba Rural School before graduating from Midland High School in 1948. Betty attended Black Hills State College after her high school graduation and received a teaching certificate. She taught in a one-room school in Stanley county for two years.

Betty was united in marriage to Loyd VanderMay on July 1st, 1950, at St. Elizabeth Catholic Church in Midland. They made their home on a ranch near Long Valley. Betty and Loyd were blessed with 12 children and 47 grandchildren, along with numerous great-grandchildren.

Betty was a member of Sacred Heart Catholic Church of Norris until it closed, when she became a member of Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church in Kadoka. Loyd passed away on December 15, 1993. Betty remained on the ranch until 2002, when she bought a home and moved to Kadoka. Since 2011, Betty has resided at the Kadoka Nursing Home.

Betty enjoyed sewing and quilting and made many beautiful items for her family. She enjoyed embroidering and was able to continue that hobby until the time of her death.

Betty was involved in many community activities throughout her life including serving on the Kadoka Nursing Home Board, the Community Action Program, and in other various capacities at Sacred Heart Catholic Church and Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church. Betty also served as a Jackson County Commissioner.

Survivors include 11 children Katherine (Bob Karlen) Phillips of Couer D’Alene, Idaho, Charles (Janet) VanderMay of Kadoka, Mary (Jerry) Setera of Miles City, Montana, Marjorie (Jerry Joe) Donovan of Martin, Angela (Ken) Bertalot of Gillette, Patrick (Kim) VanderMay of Norris, Daniel (Annette) VanderMay of Long Valley, Stephen (Vickie) VanderMay of Long Valley, Suzanne Hoon of Kadoka, Janice (Charles) Conlee of Rapid City, Joan (Mark) Miller of Fremont, Nebraska; 44 grandchildren; numerous great-grandchildren; 11 siblings Joseph (Evie) Nemec of West Des Moines, Iowa, Frances Terkildsen of Kadoka, Pauline (William) Bruce of Hayes, Christine Ryan of Tolna, North Dakota, Leo (Betty) Nemec of Little Fork, Minnesota, Audrey (Gene) Jones of Midland, Benjamin (Kathy) Nemec of Highmore, Anthony (LaVon) Nemec of Gillette, Bernadette (Dick) Knox o f Highmore, Michael (Susan) Nemec of Midland, and Rita Foreng of Sioux Falls; three sisters-in-law Glenda Nemec of Bristol, Barbara Nemec of Highmore, and Norma VanderMay of Long Valley; and a host of other relatives and friends.

In addition to her husband Loyd, Betty was preceded in death by one son John VanderMay; three grandchildren Christopher VanderMay, Theresa Setera, and Anthony Hoon; her parents; two brothers Mark Nemec and Edward Nemec; four sisters Nora Wymen, Sister Edna Nemec, Winifred Bergeson, and Mary Ann Nemec as an infant; two sons-in-law Paul Phillips and Fred Hoon; two sisters-in-law Irene Zickrick and Bertie VanderMay; and seven brothers-in-law Raymond Terkildsen, Gary Ryan, Charles Wyman, Arthur Bergeson. Kenneth Zickrick, Harry VanderMay, and Francis VanderMay.

Visitation will be held 5-7 p.m. on Friday, February 8, 2019, at Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church in Kadoka, with a vigil service at 7:00 p.m.

Mass of Christian Burial will be held 10:00 a.m. Saturday, February 9, at Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church in Kadoka, with Father Tyler Dennis as celebrant.

Interment will be at the Kadoka Cemetery.

A memorial has been established to the Kadoka Nursing Home.

Friday, February 8, 2019 - 5-7 p.m.
Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church
Kadoka, South Dakota

Friday, February 8, 2019 - 7:00 p.m.
Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church
Kadoka, South Dakota

Saturday, February 9, 2019 - 10:00 a.m.
Our Lady of Victory Catholic Church
Kadoka, South Dakota

Father Tyler Dennis

JoAnne Stilwell- Pianist
Valerie Dimond - Michaela Donovan - OLV Choir
“Amazing Grace” ”The Old Rugged Cross”
“On Eagles Wings” “Wings of a Dove” “Be Not Afraid”

Mark and Cindy VanderMay

Todd VanderMay - Katrina Donovan

Vern VanderMay - Bob Zickrick - Matt VanderMay

Kevin Phillips - Leo VanderMay - Luke VanderMay
Matthew Setera - Christopher Setera - T.J. O’Doan
Jeremiah Donovan - Michael Hopkins - Brandon VanderMay
Daniel VanderMay - Kurtis VanderMay - Cassidy Bertalot
Dusty Bertalot - Cody Bertalot - Logan VanderMay
Benjamin VanderMay - Jake VanderMay - Shane VanderMay
Orin VanderMay - Trent VanderMay - Todd VanderMay
Tel VanderMay - Carson Conlee

Amy Phillips-Bursch - Michelle Butler - Elizabeth Stricker
Christina Seekins - Angela Dumas - Debra O’Doan
Annette O’Doan - Bille Reinhold - Jennifer Sietsema
Katrina Walker - Michaela Donovan - Jessica Urban
Mary Kay Ford - Shannon Neuharth - Nicole VanderMay
Elizabeth Hoon - Rosemary Hoon - Sarah Conlee
Breanna Buchman - Colleen Konold - Valerie Dimond

Kadoka Cemetery
Kadoka, South Dakota

  • Aunt Betty And Uncle Loyd Vandermay were two of the kindest and caring people I ever knew. Aunt Betty had an amazing gift of conversation and hospitality that could put anyone as ease and you feel welcome. She could visit with you for hours and never run out of words, stories, or wisdom. God bless all Vandermay cousins and relatives. ~ Bridget Drummond Wolf Point, MT (2/16/2019)
  • My thoughts and prayers are with you all. ~ Ben Nemec Mineral, VA (2/7/2019)
  • Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. ~ David and Shawna Goldammer Sioux Falls, SD (2/6/2019)
  • Our deepest sympathy to all the family of Betty and Loyd VanderMay. (son of Leo and Lorraine TerMeer) ~ Vilas and Darlene TerMeer Pequot Lakes, Minnesota (2/6/2019)
  • You have my deepest sympathies and my thoughts are with you. ~ Ashley Breck (Leo and Lorraine TerMeer’s great granddaughter) Sioux Falls, SD (2/5/2019)
  • Peace be with you during this difficult time. ~ Shaun and Angie Breck Burlington, IA (2/5/2019)
  • SD ~ Nancy Miles Bison (2/5/2019)
  • Peace be with you. You are all in my thoughts! ~ Joelle Johnson Forbes N.D. (2/5/2019)
  • I have such warm memories of Betty. She was a wonderful organizer and a friend to all who ever met her. Sending sympathy to her family. ~ Linda Williams Westover Peoria, Arizona (2/5/2019)
  • We are all very sorry for your loss. She was a wonderful person , my dad loved to come and see u all. Our prayers and thoughts are with u, many a good memory of all the families being together. In sure they r having quite a visit above if u listen you can hear them all laughing ang talking. ~ Ed and Jackie Breck Sioux falls south dakota (2/4/2019)
  • My sincerest sympathy to Betty's family. What a legacy she left here on earth. Can't even imagine the joyous family reunion she must be having. Rest in Peace, Betty. ~ Glenda Nemec Bristol, SD (2/4/2019)
  • Sending Prayers to the VanderMay Families , Betty had a great smile all the time. She will be missed. ~ Bruce and Bonnie Madsen Kadoka S.D. (2/4/2019)
  • I am so sad for the VanderMay family. Both Uncle Loyd and Aunt Betty were the best hosts whenever we went to visit. Their smiles were contagious and their hospitality was above and beyond. Prayers for peace to the whole family. ~ Jan Loux Spearfish (2/4/2019)
  • Betty and I were in college together and kept I touch for a while. She will be missed. Symphany to all the family ~ Phyllis Fravel Mission Ridge (2/4/2019)
  • So sorry to hear of Betty's passing. She was a wonderful lady. Ron tells of the good times he had working on the ranch when he was a
    teenager and the fantastic breakfasts Betty would serve. Our sympathy goes out to all of Betty's family.
    ~ Ron & Marilyn Gartner Casa Grand AZ (2/4/2019)
  • My VanderMay cousins my thoughts and prayers are with you. Lots of fun memories of swimming in that wonderful pool at your place and eating cookies Aunt Betty made. Love you all. ~ Ellie Nemec Saucerman Rapid City (2/4/2019)
  • Chuck and Janet sorry for your loss thoughts and prayers are with you ~ Bill Eckert Okaton SD (2/4/2019)
  • MO - Missouri ~ Monica Rainey Nevada (2/4/2019)
  • So sorry to hear of Betty's passing. Condolences to the family. ~ Ellie (Brown) Bettelyoun Martin, SD (2/4/2019)
  • Sympathy and prayers are with you all. ~ Donna Craven Rapid City, SD (2/4/2019)
  • Prayers are with all of you. ~ Cathy Bowman Sorry for your loss. Thoughts and (2/4/2019)